Life has many variables but our bodies have a definite starting and ending point. What makes this race tricky is that we don’t know when it will end. We do know certain variables and we know that when those variables are in place you are in a “phase.” For example, when you have three children you will be busy during a “child rearing” phase that will be quite busy and chaotic at times (with lots of change mixed in). Like the picture at the right, you need to be able to not only recognize the bigger phase you are in but also the “ups and downs” that will occur within that phase.

Although technology and our current culture has changed many things, it hasn’t changed some of the basics associated with many life phases. One of the biggest challenges to parents today is using their time wisely for the stage they are in. For example, understand that when your child is in the “just mobile” phase and really starts to move around you might as well hold your breath for a year or two because it’s going to be crazy! The nice part is that when you know you are in a phase you can relax and know that the pressure will ease up. In the case of the “just mobile” kid you can almost see it getting a bit easier with each month that passes as they get a little bit more independent (and of course ups and downs along the way).

Encouragement: Take a family inventory and try to correctly identify which phase you are currently in. Are you investing your time well for this phase? What could you do better to take advantage of this phase?

Most families tend to develop traditions as the years go by and a common tradition is a “movie night.” I love to get pizza and sit down with the kids for a Friday night movie. I’ve already had some priceless memories of movie night with the boys because they love to get up after every movie and dance with the soundtrack (esp my 3yr old) and pretend to be the characters we just watched. Recently, we watched Madagascar 2 and our whole family was just cracking up at Moto Moto. It was priceless to watch my boys run around after the movie singing, “I like em big, I like em chunky” and trying to flex their pecs:)

It’s so great to have traditions that bring the entire family together. I know for some families it’s water skiing or playing a sport. It can be difficult to find something that spans across all ages and works well for both boys and girls, but it’s extremely important.

What are your favorite traditions? What traditions could you create to help bring everyone together?